When You Mother Him...

When you mother him, you aren’t trusting him to do it himself.⁠ ⁠ Women ask, how do i make sure i don't mother him when his love language is acts of service ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚠𝚎𝚛: ⁠ ⁠ It's about the energy. it's about are you trusting that he can do it himself, or are you already assuming that he'll forget. ⁠ ⁠ E.g. “don’t forget to do you washing” “can you put away your dishes” “you need to book in your annual doctor appointment” ⁠"remember we have dinner tonight"⁠ ⁠ ⁠ It’s the energy of ‘i have to look after you because if i dont, you won’t look after yourself” — that’s what mothers are for (my mum included lol. They make sure we don’t die essentially hahah) ⁠ ⁠ When you are constantly reminding him of things...⁠ ⁠ 1) You don't let him pursue you and lead you and ⁠ 2) You are saying that he is not enough of a man to do it himself.⁠ ⁠ *BUZZ KILL* ⁠ ⁠ The Lover (because you are his lover, not his mother) is the energy of ‘i get to love you, cherish you, support you, fuck you ;), honour you’. ⁠ ⁠ This means that you can still do things to nurture and look after him, but the energy is different. ⁠ ⁠ And just to be clear, a man loves a nurturing woman. And you can be a nurturing lover. ⁠ ⁠ IT’S BECUSE YOU WANT TO. It’s because you get pleasure out of looking after him. ⁠ ⁠ I love being nurturing, AND i don’t do it because i have to. I do it because i get pleasure out of it. (Plus it’s a hot dynamic that can make for a spicy sub/Dom situation later...”daddy” ;)) ⁠ ⁠ If you are not trusting him to have integrity, you’ll likely mother him⁠. ⁠ ⁠ If you are trusting him to be the man, and you want to support him and be warm to him, you’re likely still in the lover archetype .⁠ ⁠ Grounded, secure masuline men will have integrity .. which will 100% support you in this. ⁠ ⁠ So there also is a component where this mother energy can be brought out in insecure situations (FYI) ⁠ ⁠ If you want more of this - it’s all in BLNM! Including the topic of “what if i make more money than him and pay for most things....how can i still be the feminine?” ⁠ ⁠ BLNM is finally open again!! For more on this .... join it and thank me later ;) ⁠