How to stop feeling uncomfortable in the bedroom

...and why you're feeling that way in the first place.

As we all know, it's much for difficult for a woman to have an orgasm and fully surrender in bed, for a multitude of reasons. Sometimes there is some deep inner healing that needs to take place, sometimes there is a lack of trust and safety, and sometimes it's a lack of trust within oneself.

Here are some tips to slip into that feminine energy of receivership, so that you can fully envelop the sensuality that awaits you when the moment strikes.

1.YOUR BRAIN ISN'T TURNED OFF

In order for a woman to be turned ON, her brain must be turned OFF. The good-feelings can only rush to the pleasure centers of the brain if your amygdala is turned off. So things that you're worrying about need to press "pause" or "off" in order for you to get out of your head and into your body. This extra step that women need (to tie up any loose worries) may be why it takes women, on average 10x longer to reach orgasm compared to men.

2. FIGURE OUT WHAT RELAXES YOUR BODY DURING THE DAY

So often we jump straight to finding solutions for the bedroom, IN the bedroom. But what if the solutions are about the things you do during the day?

Think about it this way, if being 100% is FULL ready for sex, then you want to be at about 70%+ during the day so that you have further to climb when things get steamy with your lover. So start being at 70% during the day so that you're not stressed, in your head and thus feeling insecure in the bedroom.

3. HEAL THE THING CAUSING YOUR BODY TO FEEL UNSAFE

You knew I was going to throw in "heal your shit" didn't you ;). Well...I'm serious.

We often reach for the next book, more lingere or moody lighting to 'relax' but what if the reason that you're not able to fully let go is because of a much deeper fear than the brightness of the room? Even if you're in a consciously safe environment, with a man that you feel safe with, if there is past trauma, energetic blocks or fears around relaxing, being fully seen, and/or being vulnerable then chances are your body isn't going to fully relax in the most vulnerable situation (intimacy).